Worship While It’s Warm

Do you like your family? I’m sure the answers will vary among the readers. For some of you may have wonderful, nurturing families that are tight-knit, supportive where you enjoy spending time with one another. On the opposite ends are dysfunctional families where relational tension and friction abound and there may even be a sordid or distasteful history. But one thing is certain, you came with the family you have.

So it is with the body of Christ. When I consider Ephesians 4:1

Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called,

The calling in context of chapters 3 and 4, is that Christ does not draw us to operate individually but to be part of His body. Unfortunately, we live in a very individualistic culture that promotes the needs of self over a corporate mindset. But this is not so in the body of Christ. The minute we say yes to Jesus, we become part of God’s family.

Also consider 1 Corinthians 12:12

For even as the body is one and yet has many members, and all the members of the body, though they are many, are one body, so also is Christ.

But I am painfully aware of those members who have encountered abuse to the extent that the only viable option for any type of peace, is to disassociate with other family members. I liken some of the experiences to some client files that I get to examine in the course of my job (I manage a federal funding program that distributes funding to homeless service providers throughout my state). It is not uncommon for me to find that some folks have ended up homeless due to substance abuse and behavioral issues that had its roots in troubled family histories, most notably childhood sexual abuse. And while this is quite a strong statement in comparison to the trauma and abuse that some members of God’s family have experienced, I do think it is and adequate analogy. For consider what childhood sexual abuse entails:

1) harmful acts against a child by those who were supposed to protect them

2) the violation of innocence where there should have been nurturing.

3) the production of emotional harm due to this violation

Yes, some have been violated as spiritual children and experienced extreme harm by those who were supposed to protect them. My heart does go out to those who have experienced this. There are others, who may not have experienced this severity but nonetheless, have been so disenchanted with how family members operate are as equally hurt and isolated and consider association to likely produce pain rather than comfort. So they disconnect.

But this is not the picture of God’s family life that I see in the bible. As members of the body Christ, our love and concern for the well-being of others should take precedent over personal needs and selfish ambition. We hurt when others hurt, we rejoice when others rejoice (Romans 12:15). We love, we care, we nourish, we encourage and sometimes even admonish. But even that should be done with the heart of concern for the other person. Shepherds are to tend to the needs of the flock and desire the spiritual growth of each member. They are to serve as an example not provide a dictator rulership.

So if you’re reading this and you have been burned by dysfunctional body life within God’s family, I encourage you to allow healthy connections to fellow members. We are all fallible human beings who demonstrate myriad acts of imperfection on a regular basis. Give the body a shot because that’s what you were called for.  You’re not supposed to go it alone.

And I would encourage those of us who have experienced healthiness in our fellowship to seek out those who have been burned. Embrace them and show them that the love of Jesus is not what they experienced. It is also for this, that we have been called.